I'm a 20 year old girl, and my body count is relatively small when compared to other girls my age. Every time I tell a guy about it, he get's shocked. They're always like "but you're pretty" or "well why?", etc. I'm a person who loves sex. I've always been considered kinky by my close friends. However, I do not enjoy having sex with random guys all the time. And when I tell guys that, they have a "I can fix that" attitude as though it's something that needs to be fixed. To me, there's nothing wrong with the amount of guys I've slept with. I always preferred relationships and so that's how I operate.

Do you think being able to count the amount of men on your first hand is crazy when you're 20 going on 21?

 

No I don't put much stock in the "body count" of other people, even those I am in a intimate relationship with. I think a lot of guys just assume attractive, sexually confident women have sex with tons of guys because they would if they could.

 

I have no idea if it's statistically unusual, but I'm almost 40 and I can count the women I've had oral or vaginal sex with on one hand. But I've had a lot of sex within a few (mostly) serious relationships. Hell, I've had more sex in one night than I can count on two hands, but it was just with one girl. I guess, like you, my emphasis has always been on relationships. Was that the right way to be? Who knows. My final thought is you do you and fuck what anyone else thinks.

But as for saying "I can fix that" well, come on... I couldn't resist trying a corny line like that!

 

No not weird at all.. your body your choice to sleep around or not. And commendable for being a "good" girl.

 

Body count? Are you a hit man for the mob?

 

When I read “body count” I thought of murder lol. But I guess u mean sexual partners

I get what you’re saying. I’m 35 and I’ve had sex with 4 men. Not because I can’t have more, but because I only sleep with boyfriends and I’ve had very long relationships. It’s not a competition.

 

Cherry you slut. You've had 33% more than me. I believe my number could have been a few higher but for shyness/inexperience when I was younger.

 

I would rather have really enjoyable sex with a few partners than a lot of bad sex with many.

 

It's your body your choice always. Who cares what others think about your choices? I have had alot of experience. Some good and some bad. Does it make me a bad person for the number of guys i have been with? I say no and if anyone thinks so it's their problem not mine. I do value healthy and loving relationships the most. For watever my reasons were relationships scared me in the past. Actually they still do. Even if i'm in one. Lol So i probably pushed away some that could had been great for me. I also do not think it's wrong to have a low "number" count. But they are not just numbers anyway. Shockingly most guys never even ask or want to know about past sexual experiences. If they like you. They have to accept you. That means all of you. Your past and all. Just be yourself.

 

There’s no body count number that would be weird. If you’ve been with 1 or 100 people, thats your number, and no one except you, gets decide what is right for you. So keep enjoying the steady sex, or start exploring new partners, as long as you’re happy with it, so should everyone else .

 

Really good sex requires some sort of relationship. That takes some time even if it is only sexual. A large number of one nighters is a sign of some intimacy issues. My wife and I are swingers. Our total sex partner count is around 8 each ,and that is over 23 years. I prefer lower partner counts. Indiscriminate sex partners along with not being real satisfying is kind of dangerous.

 

When I was 20, I had only been with three females and no guys. Granted I was very active from 20 on but mainly with older women. Which is a slightly different scenario than what your talking about. But my point is don't worry about how man partners you've had or will have. Its quality over quantity when it comes to sex and relationships IMO.

 

No.. Dont worry about it. Lots of partners doesnt equal happy, or better.

 

I thought this thread was going to be about you being an assassin. Whew. What a relief. Nah girl, it’s perfectly fine. Keep doing what makes you happy. Don’t let anyone pressure you.

 

I don't think that's a "bad" thing.
No one degines how many partners is enough or too low. Something like that doesn't exist.
I share your thought, I prefer relationships over ONS or the like and so in my 14 years of sexual activity I can still count my secual partners on one hand wothout using every finger.

So do your thing as you see it right and enjoy what you do

 

They're always making fun of cause I never killed anyone

 

Sex? What's that?
I don't think it's weird. I'm 47 and have only had sex with 5 women. I used to like being in a relationship also. Then after a 10 year relationship that ended with a miserable 3 year marriage...I decided that relationships aren't worth it to me anymore.It's too much brain damage.

 

Not at all unless you're trying to make a reputation for yourself and then bitch because you're being judged accordingly? If my wife had never began playing games with sex like it was "keep away" I would have only had 3 lovers my entire life and wore it just as proudly.

 

There is no normal amount, but I do know that I have lost count of those that I have fucked but I do know it will be very much above the vanilla churchy peoples idea of normal. But I don't regret any of them